Interested in strap-ons but don’t know where to start? This guide is for you! In it, we’ll cover everything from the basics of using a strap-on to the different types available. Whether you’re a first-time user or just looking to learn more, read on for all you need to know about strap-ons!

What is a Strap-on?

Fig. 1. A strap-on can be used by either men or women

The world of strap-ons is one that’s been around for quite some time now. They can be used by either men or women, and provide an easy way to enjoy penetrative sex. The strap-on has been known as the key for many couples looking forward to new experiences without worrying about physical limitations.

A strap-on is a two-piece sex toy that includes an erect penis-like toy, which can be either vibrating or nonvibrating, and a harness. A strap-on is composed entirely of synthetic materials such as silicone or rubber. The harness attaches to your hips and holds it in place so you can have penetrative anal or vaginal intercourse using this two-piece construction of silicone delight!

Harness styles can be as creative and versatile as you want them to be. Some of the more popular types include granny panties and leather thongs with a strap that fits over each butt cheek. There are also leg straps you can use if you want your partner to grind on your thighs. The options really do seem endless when it comes down to how far your imagination goes!

Why Use a Strap-on?

There are many reasons why individuals use a strap-on, and here are some of the most popular ones:

• Some people enjoy strap-on play because they can finally experience the feeling of being inside another person.
• Some women enjoy the role reversal of using a strap-on, and they say it’s great being able to be “the boss.”
• There are many different ways to get penetration in your bedroom. Some men enjoy having their prostate gland stimulated through anal play. For women, they find joy with a strap-on inside their vagina or anus during sex!
• Some enjoy performing oral sex on their partner with a strap-on.
• Others use strap-ons for roleplay. In this type of play, one partner will be in charge and the other submissive. The person wearing the strap-on is typically dominant while their lover takes on more passive roles during sex or other intimate activities.

The Different Types of Strap-ons

The different kinds of strap-ons can be broken down into two categories, those that require a harness and others that do not.

With harness

Fig. 2. A strap-on with harness

Harnessed strap-ons are fun for beginners and couples looking to spice up their love life. You can use a harness with almost any toy you already own. Some of them feature a built-in vibrator or g-spot dildo. There are different strap-on harness designs to look for, so you may want to try them out to know which one best suits your preferences.

There are different types of harnesses for strap-ons to try out. Corset, G-string, and jock fit are all popular choices as they come in many colors and designs. For those that want a more traditional approach, there are brief, panty, and lingerie-type harnesses that may be more comfortable to wear. 

Hollow strap-ons

Hollow strap-ons are designed for males who want to indulge in penetration. Wait, what? Why would males use it when they have their thing? Well, there are a few reasons why one would rely on a strap-on to enjoy sex.

For one, they allow men to perform and satisfy their partner even if they’ve finished earlier. Another purpose of this sex toy is for those with erectile dysfunction and similar erection problems. A strap-on helps men enjoy penetration sex despite their condition. 

On the kinkier side, there are hollow strap-ons that have bullet vibrators for extra pleasure, a second penis appendage designed for double penetration, and regular ones that vary in size from just the right fit to humongous 12-inch toys.

Without harness

Fig. 3. A strap-on without harness

Strapless strap-ons are the newest way to have an adventurous and intimate experience with yourself. These toys don’t require any straps, instead, you grip your end internally so it’s incredibly intimate while wearing them! Some even work well when coupled up with a bullet vibrator too!

Who uses this type of strap-on? Women are the primary market for dual-ended strap-ons, especially those who want to enjoy penetration sex with their partner. It’s also the best toy for those who want to try role reversal and be the “boss”, indulging in another world of sex play called pegging. (We’ll discuss more about pegging in the future, so stay tuned!)

How to Choose the Right Strap-on

Fig. 4. Choose the right strap-on for maximum pleasure

Material

It’s all about you and your partner when it comes to choosing a strap-on. There are many options out there, but some things worth considering first would be material preference: silicone, stainless steel, or glass. 

You can’t go wrong with a strap-on dildo made of 100% silicone! It’s the best material for feeling soft, skin-like textures. But if you want something more firm but still pliable (it won’t be as bendy), stainless steel or glass may be the best options.

Avoid those made of materials like phthalates. This compound is used to make toys more flexible but can be harmful if they come into contact with your body for too long. They’ve been linked to asthma triggers, low IQ boosters, and other reproductive risks. 

Sex toys that are porous have also been proven carriers of yeast infections and STIs between partners. They can also cause urinary tract infections since they cannot be fully sterilized.

Size

Then consider size as well. How big do you or your partner need? Usually, the size of strap-on dildos will be the same as the usual standalone dildo you use. 

Harness

Harnesses are typically made of leather, nylon, or soft plastics. Leather harnesses don’t run the risk of chafing that usually occurs in cheaper materials like soft plastics or nylon. Nonetheless, all these are body-safe to use.

Strapless strap-ons don’t need harnesses because they’re inserted in the person wearing them to be secured. They can also be stabilized using boxer briefs.

Cost

You may be thinking that spending more money on a harness or dildo is an unnecessary expense, but the payoff can make it worth every penny. You also really get what you pay for when it comes to pleasure toys like these. There’s no need for skimping, especially if you think that strap-on play will likely become part of your regular sex life!

Additional tips when buying a beginner strap-on

The perfect beginner strap-on starts with the right harness. Make sure to get an adjustable harness and comfortable material like leather or nylon that will fit snugly around your body and provide maximum control over the sex toy.

When shopping for a harness, make sure that the one you choose can be used with your desired dildo size. There are some models that have adjustable straps, while others have fixed ones that are designed for a specific size only.

How to Use a Strap-on for Beginners

Fig. 6. Get a beginner strap-on kit from Orgasmic Deals

Get used to it first

Wearing a harness and dildo may feel weird at first. After all, it might be an extra body part that you may never have had before! 

We recommend wearing your new gear around the house while doing normal and non-sexual activities like cooking or watching. This will give you time to get used to it, so it will be easier to use with your partner. 

And don’t forget about playing with the toy by yourself. Exploring how the strap-on feels when applied solo is essential for developing an intimate relationship with it.

Introduce it to your partner

Now that you’re comfortable with your gear, it’s time to show off! Wear the harness and dildo as you make out and pleasure each other! You can also have them jack off or give head if you’re both comfortable with the act. The important thing is to go slow at first. 

Apply lube – lots of it!

The most important thing to remember about using a strap-on for penetration is that you should use as much lube as possible. Be aware of your partner’s needs, especially when they need you to stop and apply more lube to the strap-on. 

Using lubricant can be very helpful for beginner strap-on activities. Make sure that you’re using the right lube. Silicone-based lubricants can gradually degrade the quality of silicone toys, so it’s best to check what the lube is made of before using it.

Forget about thrusting – for now

Newbies, take a break from trying to thrust during intercourse for now. It can be difficult and uncomfortable at first! Don’t go comically overboard with figuring out how everything works because it’s not necessary when you’re just starting. 

FAQs on Strap-ons

Q: What can I use as a guide when choosing a size for my beginner strap-on?

A: When shopping for a strap-on, there are two things to consider. The first is your favorite dildo and the second will be what harness you want it in!

The size of the toy should be based on how many fingers you’re comfortable with. If you can fit two fingers, then go for something around that girth size. For a beginner strap-on, it’s best to go for the slimmer option because it’s easier to leave your partner wanting for more than making them feel that it’s too much for them. 

Harnesses come in all different shapes and sizes. The key thing to keep an eye on when shopping for one is what feels comfortable – not just how it looks! A slim-backed one is better suited if your dildo of choice has a smaller shaft, while a wider-backed style will be more suited to girthier toys.

Q: Which lube should I use?

A: There are a lot of different lube options out there, but each type has its own unique pros and cons. 

Water-based lubes work with most condoms and toys, but they often dry out quickly. Oil-based lubes are mega slippery without drying out, making them a great choice for beginner strap-on sex. However, they can erode latex or rubber condoms and sex toys. Silicone-based lubes are versatile, but you can’t use them with silicone toys. 

Q: What are the best strap-on positions for beginners?

Fig. 11. Missionary sex position for strap-on beginners
(Source: Freepik)

A: If you’re looking for the best beginner strap-on positions, then these are the three easy ones to try out: Missionary, doggie style, or any rider position. These setups typically allow for slow entry which helps prevent the device from slipping out as well as provide stability during penetration. For anal sex, lying or kneeling on the bed while the penetrator stands from behind are suitable positions for easier entry.

Q: How should I clean the strap-on after use?

A: Cleaning your strap-on depends entirely on the material it’s made of. If you have a silicone, glass, or stainless steel dildo without an internal vibrator, then it’s safe to put it in the dishwasher for hassle-free cleaning. You can also boil it in hot water for 3 to 4 minutes, or hand wash it using a special sex toy cleaner. Otherwise, if your strap-on has a vibrator, just wipe it down with warm water and sex toy cleaner. 

For strap-on harnesses made of nylon or thick cotton, you can put them in the dishwasher. Plastics and vinyl, on the other hand, should be wiped down with soap and water to maintain their integrity.

Q: I already have a butt plug. Can I use it on my strap-on?

A: There are some serious risks to using a butt plug as a strap-on. The motion of removing and inserting it can cause damage as it’s not designed for that purpose. 

Q: Is there something I should avoid when buying a strap-on?

A: When shopping for a sex toy, it’s important to be aware of the materials used and what they may do in addition to pleasure. Some toys are made out of porous substances that can release harmful chemicals called phthalates that react with sweat or bacteria on your skin.

Make sure you’re not buying a toy that was made from harmful materials. Most sex toys nowadays are created using silicone or other non-porous surfaces that are marked as body-safe.

Our Product Recommendations

For a beginner strap-on, here are some of our recommendations:

1. Vaculock Strap-on Harness Kit for Beginners With Dual Density Dildo Kit Carmel

Fig. 7. Vaculock Strap-on Harness Kit for Beginners With Dual Density Dildo Kit

The Vac-U-Lock Dual Density Starter Set provides a fun and innovative introduction to strap-on sex with a complete harness with removable o-rings and plug, three moderately-sized ULTRASKYN attachments, and a bottle of Mood water-based lube. These dual density attachments warm to body temperature with use and feature a soft, pliable exterior that gives way to a firm inner core, recreating the feel of a real erect penis.

2. Vaculock Strap-on Harness Kit for Beginners With Realistic Vibrating Dildo Set

Fig. 8. Vaculock Strap-on Harness Kit for Beginners With Realistic Vibrating Dildo Set

Your perfect strap-on experience is on lock with Doc Johnson`s deluxe line of full-service Vac-U-Lock Deluxe Sets. The Vac-U-Lock Dual Density ULTRASKYN Set is a solid investment for upgrading or beginning your strap-on accessories collection, offering multiple options in one box via a complete harness with removable O-rings, a 7-function rechargeable vibrating Vac-U Plug with remote, three ULTRASKYN attachments, and a bottle of Mood water-based lube.

3. Beginners Strap-on Harness Pegging Kit With Dildo 5.25 Inch

Fig. 9. Beginners Strap-on Harness Pegging Kit With Dildo 5.25 Inch

Give your boy-toy the anal satisfaction he’s been inquiring about with this beginner strap-on harness kit. This slim jelly dong is perfectly sized for him.

4. KC Elite Beginner’s Silicone Body Dock Strap-on Harness Kits

Fig. 10. KC Elite Beginner’s Silicone Body Dock Strap-on Harness Kits

The patented Beginner’s Body Dock® Strap-On Harness kit takes strap-on play to a whole new level! It’s as simple as attaching your favorite King Cock Elite® silicone dildo (or any dildo/ vibrator with a suction cup) to the suction dock. The Body Dock® nylon straps can be easily adjusted to fit most sizes and body types.

Get Your Beginner Strap-on at Orgasmic Deals

So there you have it! Our comprehensive guide to beginner strap-ons. Whether you’re a first-timer or an experienced user, we hope this article has taught you something new and inspired you to try out this fun and versatile sex toy. 

If you’re ready to buy your own strap-on, head on over to our shop for the full range of strap-on products available. We can’t wait to see what amazing things you’ll do with your new toy!